• Matthew Trethewey

Why Did I Become A Coach?

Updated: Jun 25, 2021

W. Clement Stone, the late American businessman, whose net worth was around $500 million, once said, "Become an inverse paranoid. Believe that the world is plotting to do you good!"

I've only recently come to the belief that everything I've experienced in my life, both pleasurable and painful, has prepared me to become a coach and a trainer. I am here to help others move on and improve their business, career and personal life.

My start in life was great. I had lots of fun, and I recall many happy memories. However, beginning in my early teens, I started to face problems, which became increasingly difficult to manage. There were problems with my father and teasing at school. I suffered from low self-esteem, low self-confidence, social phobia, loneliness, depression and addiction. Many of these stayed with me for a long time, and, at times, I felt utterly lost and confused. I'm not ashamed to admit that I've had suicidal thoughts. So, for me, life has not always been fantastic.

Around nineteen years old, I realised that my problems were not going to go away quickly, nor would I solve them by myself. So, I sought out professional help. I proceeded to work with many therapists and doctors up until thirty years old. Unfortunately, none were able to help me. I do not want to belittle or criticise their work; they provide a vital service for many people. However, therapy and medicine (taking antidepressants) did not work for me. In hindsight, I realise that it did not fulfil my needs. I wanted something different. But I didn't know what it was, and neither did they.

One good aspect to emerge from this period was that I got introduced to the world of self-help and personal development. I developed a keen interest, and I began to read lots of books and listen to audios. And when I applied what I had learnt, it created positive results. For instance, I experimented with visualisation techniques, such as imagining the day ahead going well, and invariably this is what I made. These new ideas and tools were working for me.

As I kept reading, I noticed that the gurus of personal development, such as Tony Robbins and Jack Canfield, were happy, wealthy and living successful lives. And later on, around the age of thirty-six, I discovered what business and life coaching was: the process of helping people create better results for their business, career and personal life. The more I learned about coaching, the more I believed that it, not therapy or medicine, were a more suitable solution for removing my blocks and helping me fulfil my potential.

I now have a coach. I've experienced first-hand the power of coaching, especially with removing blocks that had been keeping me held back for years. And I'm now more on track to reach the big, ambitious goals I have set myself.

Coaching enabled me to discover my purpose: inspiring and empowering others to move forward and create what they want. I had been doing this in my role as a school teacher, but my impact was too limited. Many people are stuck, and there is a greater need for this work. So I stopped teaching, completed my training and became a Certified Professional Coach.

After teaching in schools for ten years, becoming a trainer came more natural to me. After reading Jack Canfield's book, "The Success Principles", in 2016, I felt inspired. It's one of the best personal development books I've ever read, and it's the most useful. Jack Canfield, the New York Times best-selling author, multimillionaire, and one of the featured teachers in "The Secret", explains that successful people develop specific habits and behaviours that anyone can learn and apply to be successful. The "Success Principles" work together to become a proven system to be successful. As I want to succeed and help others achieve it, I completed Jack's training and became a Certified Canfield Trainer of The Success Principles.

With my preparation complete, I'm ready to embark on my mission of transforming lives. I will start small, but my intention is global. I'm excited, but I realise there's lots of hard work ahead of me. That's perfectly fine with me, though, as I've always been a hard worker!

Most of my life has been challenging, but I handled it. And I'm a much stronger person because I've developed qualities such as empathy, compassion, diligence, perseverance, and patience.

I've transformed my career, and now I'm going to change lives. I'm finally living out my purpose, and I'm passionate about the work I do. And the best is yet to come.

Reach out to me by email if you would like to have a conversation and experience what I do. It's truly life-changing.

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